Words for the woman in the middle of her story.

The Story Isn't the Problem. The Meaning Is.

We tend to believe that what happened to us is what shaped us. But the event itself is only part of the story.

The Question I Keep Coming Back To

Here's a question I sit with a lot, both in my own life and with the women I work with: Whose disappointment am I actually afraid of?

June 17, 2026

My Mother Taught Me to Fix Everything. It Almost Cost Me Myself.

I used to think my mother was the strongest woman I'd ever seen. She was the person everyone called. Watching her, I thought — that's what a strong woman looks like.

You've Been Collecting Evidence for the Wrong Story

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to prove yourself right? Your mind has become remarkably skilled at collecting evidence for a story it already believes.

Some of Your Beliefs Were Never Yours

When I was a little girl, there were things I believed long before I understood why I believed them. Children are always learning — by watching, listening, and noticing.

You Didn't Lose Yourself. You Adapted.

Of course you changed — you had to shrink parts of yourself to manage what was in front of you. The problem isn't that you adapted. The problem is believing it erased you.

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